I want you to imagine sending an email to your friends and family that THIS is the year you are going to make your first million dollars.
What do you think their reaction will be?
Like, really imagine it. Your dad sits down at the kitchen table to drink his coffee. He turns on his phone, opens his gmail (let’s hope it’s not aol) and begins to read an email where you share that you’re going to make $1m over the next 12 months.
What do you believe he would think about you?
Would he be excited? Scared? Worried? Disappointed?
What about your neighbor? What about your mother in law? What about your sister?
If you’re like most people, you will imagine that you’ll have a few responses that say, “YES YOU CAN DO IT!!!” and a whole lot of…
…“Who do you think you are?”
…“Don’t tell everyone you’re going to be rich!”
…”I just don’t want you to be disappointed when it doesn’t work out.”
…”That sounds crazy. You’ll never actually do that.”
I want you to lean into your earbuds and listen closely because I have some GREAT NEWS to share with you: Their opinions and judgements of what’s possible for YOU have NOTHING to do with your success.
Look, I’m just going to be honest here. Sometimes judging others is kinda fun…ESPECIALLY if you want to avoid looking inward and deal with your own problems.
But, the reality is that our negative judgements of others say more about our OWN deep rooted fears and traumas than they do about anything else.
Welcome to earth, we all have baggage.
Part of your job as a future millionaire is learning HOW to let go of other people’s projections.
I’m going to share how to let go. I paid $30k to learn this from a coach and now I’m going to share it with you for free. Ready?
Ok. Imagine I’m standing in front of you.
I’m wearing my coziest pair of sweatpants and I look amazing if I do say so myself.
There’s a small shelf to your right with a pen on it.
Reach over and pick up the pen.
Hold it right in front of you.
Now…let it go.
Easy? Not always.
WHY IS IT SO HARD TO LET THINGS GO?
It’s hard because you’re choosing to make it hard.
You’re holding on for dear life because…
…you want to be liked
…you want to be RIGHT
…you want to be safe
It’s hard to let go because you are CHOOSING to hold on.
Once you make the decision to let go, it’s easy.
I can’t let go of this pen because my brother-in-law won’t like me anymore.
I can’t let go of this pen because then I have to ADMIT I was choosing to hold on for all these years.
I can’t let go of this pen because I’m scared of what will happen next.
Tell me right now, what is ONE belief that you KNOW is holding you back in life?
What is holding on to that belief COSTING you mentally, spiritually, emotionally, financially, physically?
One of the beliefs that I held onto for a really long time was: Making money has to be hard.
I was constantly self-sabotaging my success because whenever things started to flow and it became EASY to make money – I DID SOMETHING to make it hard again.
Now, I wasn’t making a conscious choice to make it hard, but that belief, “Making money has to be hard,” was constantly running in my subconscious and influencing ALL my decisions.
When it was EASY, I felt incredibly guilty that it was easy for me and I’d unknowingly do something to make it hard again. THEN, I’d say “See! I told you it was hard.”
Strangely enough, making money the hard way was PAINFUL – but it also felt safe and familiar.
I was scared people would hate me if it was easy. I was scared if making money was easy for me, it would mean I was a greedy and selfish person.
One by one, I had to go through each thought and ask myself if it was ACTUALLY true.
Would people hate me if they knew I let it be easy to make money?
Maybe. But, some people ALREADY hate me. I can’t control whether people do or don’t hate me and I certainly don’t want to live my life for others…that is NOT the example I want to set for my daughter.
Would I be greedy and selfish if I let it be easy to make money?
It COULD happen, but I’m not a greedy or selfish person. Maybe my REAL fear was that OTHER PEOPLE would THINK I was greedy and selfish. Yep, that was it.
Well, is that true? If someone THINKS I’m greedy or selfish, does that mean I AM greedy and selfish?
NO. Of course not. Opinions of others don’t determine who I am. I determine who I am.
I make money by helping others and if I wanted to help AS MANY people as possible, I had to get out of my own way and STOP making things so complicated.
I had to DECIDE to let go of the belief that making money was hard because it was limiting the impact I was able to have on the world!
So, I let it go.
Just like the pen, I decided to let it go, and then it was gone.
I KNOW I’m not alone when it comes to holding onto the belief that making money has to be hard, because I see it in new clients everyday.
When we first start working together, they believe that transitioning to an evergreen model has to be COMPLEX and DIFFICULT. So, they over complicate simple tasks and make things harder than they need to be. Of course, they’re fortunate enough to be supported by a team of highly trained coaches who know how to recognize a limiting belief is present and have the specific skillset to help shift their beliefs.
After awhile, our clients learn how to coach themselves! They’ll post something in the community, identify the limiting belief that is present, and shift themself right out of it.
If you feel stuck and you don’t know how to get out of your own way, that’s normal. Welcome to earth. We all have baggage.
Just because letting go feels hard now, doesn’t mean it will ALWAYS be hard. It’s a skill, just like any other and with practice, you’ll become unstoppable.
So, what is a belief that YOU want to let go of?
Follow me on Instagram @caitlinbacher and slide into my DMs to let me know!
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